It won't work like that on both sides. Once you dared to speak with your partner this way you already lost him. Breaking the ego or treating your partner with a disrespectful way means you don't care anymore and that is the actual begining of the end. If you care then control yourself and stay away from her/his ego.
Monday, September 24, 2007
Self talk
She: I won't let him think of it as an acquired right. I won't let it be a routine thing
He: I won't let her abuse me or twisting my arms because she knows I need it
She: I am not a piece of furniture. I am not a TV. I am not a love doll. I am human. He has to hearn how to treat me like that
He: Why they make of it a big deal. It is just 5 minute body friction.
She: I am not married to be an always available source for his satisfaction.
He: Why she is thinking she is doing it to me. I please her too.
She: All those years I couldn't teach him that women make it for the emotional satisfaction not for the physical part like men, but the time has come for that lesson.
He: I rather fool around than let her enjoy that control.
She: It takes years for men and women to deal with their differences but I won't give up.
He: I won't let her abuse me or twisting my arms because she knows I need it
She: I am not a piece of furniture. I am not a TV. I am not a love doll. I am human. He has to hearn how to treat me like that
He: Why they make of it a big deal. It is just 5 minute body friction.
She: I am not married to be an always available source for his satisfaction.
He: Why she is thinking she is doing it to me. I please her too.
She: All those years I couldn't teach him that women make it for the emotional satisfaction not for the physical part like men, but the time has come for that lesson.
He: I rather fool around than let her enjoy that control.
She: It takes years for men and women to deal with their differences but I won't give up.
Logic
Ordinary Negociations
He: Please
She: NO
He: I will help you cooking today
She: NO
He: I will take you to a fancy romantic dinner
She: still NO
He: I will take you to the beach
She: still NO
He: I will buy you a gold ring
She: still NO
He: I will buy you a new dress
She: still NO
He: I will renovate you the kitchen
She: still NO
He: I will do all of the above
She: still NO
He: Why?
She: I have the period.
He: Shit. Women love those days, hah? Seeing their men burning
She: NO
He: I will help you cooking today
She: NO
He: I will take you to a fancy romantic dinner
She: still NO
He: I will take you to the beach
She: still NO
He: I will buy you a gold ring
She: still NO
He: I will buy you a new dress
She: still NO
He: I will renovate you the kitchen
She: still NO
He: I will do all of the above
She: still NO
He: Why?
She: I have the period.
He: Shit. Women love those days, hah? Seeing their men burning
The consequence
Very Natural
He: Honey you get mad of things that I don't know. I don't feel it. Women see some things so big while men see them very small or even unnoticeable. I don't know why you are mad, why you are disappointed. Don't blame me I am a normal man. Your silence will solve nothing. Don't think that I am blunt or turning my blind eye then you punish me for that. I really don't feel it. We are simple creatures not like you. Make it clear in a gentle comment and I will either apologise and consider it in the future or tell you my reasons
She: I can't make comment on million things. You just don't feel what the woman is
He: fine, what now? break up or try as much to replace the missing pieces?
She: I can't make comment on million things. You just don't feel what the woman is
He: fine, what now? break up or try as much to replace the missing pieces?
Nothing can be solved that way
Literally nothing can be solved that way. Each puts the blame on the other. Each has inordinate ego defence. Each doesn't want to share in the resposibility. Each refuses to say " Sorry". Each looks at the other like an enemy. Each lack the self confidence. Each does not have a minimal degree of diplomacy. Each considers the other the problematic partner. Each is closing the door for any resolution. Each avoids looking in self mirror to see how he looks. Each loses the insight and does not care about any consequences. That usually ends by a total crash. She goes her way and he goes his and the beautiful story that meant to be forever ends so fast.
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