What makes us stay happy together and accomodate one another as lovers, friends, partners, husband and wife is the degree of harmony that naturally exists in our personality traits. How we chemically reacts. What results would be when we mix the components of our personalities: our beliefs, our values, our thresholds, our likes and dislikes, our attitude toward things in life, our IQs, our insight. Each one of those is a big chapter. One has to test those components pretty well before one goes into a committed relation
Here is two typical examples of failure to accomodate
I have a friend with limited resources who was living with his wife and two kids one day up and two days down. One night his wife showed him an expensive gold bracelet. She said that she found it on the edge of the balcony and said to him “It is sent to us from God. let us sell it and solve our financial problems” He didn’t say anything. He just grabbed the phone. Called all the neighbors who live above him, one by one. One of the neighbors cried when he asked her and told him that she lost a gold bracelet a month ago. Her child threw it from the balcony and she never found it in the street. He told her that they found it and he went upstairs to give it to her. He came to his wife and told her” did you expect me to feed my kids from stolen stuff? Enti Tale2…Tale2…Tale2”. That marriage would definetely lived if the man has the same personality like the woman.
Another friend. Events happened on day 27 after his marriage. At that night he asked his newly wed wife to fake a scenario when he sleeps with her. He asked her to keep saying these words because it stimulate him more. He wanted her to say things like “ la2 ya sidi, balash keda wel nabi, alla el hanem meratak teshofna, ana set metgawweza ya baih, 7aram 3alek, matefda7neesh, ya kharabi ! 3aib ya sidi keda, beta3ak kebeer awi ya baih, beyoga3ni….etc….” She refused. The next day she packed and left forever. That marriage again could live if she shares him the same personality. I am narrating those two stories as honest copies of the original that was mentioned by those two men
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that's why humams should share thier life together before marrige, but you can not say that in Egypt or any Islamic country. Let them be happy with what they have, bad life all way long. you need to know each other even in bed before you deside to get marride, as simple as this.
You are amazing, well said my lady, well said. You put it straight, sharp and logic. These days the woman is not like before, passive and submissive like a piece of funiture. The woman now has her own identity, acting personality traits, character strength. No one can take that away from her anymore so the only way to win it is to live it and be in it. That is the assuring preview. I wish if you read my post " Marriage and organ transplant" it says exactly the same. Thank you for letting me know that now in Egypt we have people so much logic, practical and open minded
Hi safwat ,
I'm 1 from 80 000 000 million , it is not enough never ever, tht is why i'm thinking of going any other place that respect females and that you can say what inside you freely
Egypt rose. please read my post " meen ma ye7ebbish Mrmr"
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