What is the problem with women and sex?
There are many modifiable and non-modifiable factors that ended up with the current attitude of women toward sex especially in the thirld world
1- women are raised and taught that sex is a religious and cultural shame for the woman. Shame to ask for it. Shame to do it. Shame to speak about it or express it. Shame even to inquire about it, unlike men. That is the main inhibiting factor. If that was not there sex would be like any normal activities in life like drinking or eating.
2- Women recognized early in history, the importance and intensity of sex to men compare to them to the degree that women felt they should make use of it somehow before they do it. It can't be without a price
3- All the bad consequences of sex come only on the woman; Loss of virginity, illegal pregnancy, bad reputation, honor killing. etc..
4- The problem of loss of newness. The woman knows she is precious because is not accessible yet and once he reached her, got used to her then it is over. So she wants that loss to be after a stable agreement “ the marriage”
5- Women do have sexual desire but they lack the urge and the motive. It comes to their mind like a notion that can be controlled if the circumstances are not permitting, or the guy is not interesting, not a physical urge that they have to do it no matter what, with anybody. That is why when they do it they do it after careful thinking and good evaluation of the circumstances. Probably that is why women are blamed for having sexual affairs more than men
6- The idea of men wants sex for sex not as a way to express a true love in a big bar in woman’s sexuality.
7- The situational requirments that add more burden on the woman. She has to look appealing and welcoming even if she is not, putting a nice make up, dresses in a provocative way, shave, put perfume, sometimes she is asked to wears small see through clothes in the middle on a cold winter while he is wearing his Kastoor pyjamas and just getting his thing out. etc.. It is really unfair
8- What the man does in a sexual encounter is exactly what the woman does NOT want. Short foreplay, no love words, painful harsh mechanical movement, The stimulatory movement is away from her target organ. The very quick time he reaches his climax and the most horrible and inhuman of all is his sudden immediate loss of interest after his orgasm. He immediately sleeps, turns his back, leaves the room to smoke or watch TV as if nothing happened and she is left frustrated with her gradual, natural downhill of feelings.
I guess bilateral awareness of the natural physical differences of both sexes, better dealing with the cultural challenges might make the distance between men and women sexuality a lot narrower.
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There are many modifiable and non-modifiable factors that ended up with the current attitude of women toward sex especially in the thirld world
1- women are raised and taught that sex is a religious and cultural shame for the woman. Shame to ask for it. Shame to do it. Shame to speak about it or express it. Shame even to inquire about it, unlike men. That is the main inhibiting factor. If that was not there sex would be like any normal activities in life like drinking or eating.
2- Women recognized early in history, the importance and intensity of sex to men compare to them to the degree that women felt they should make use of it somehow before they do it. It can't be without a price
3- All the bad consequences of sex come only on the woman; Loss of virginity, illegal pregnancy, bad reputation, honor killing. etc..
4- The problem of loss of newness. The woman knows she is precious because is not accessible yet and once he reached her, got used to her then it is over. So she wants that loss to be after a stable agreement “ the marriage”
5- Women do have sexual desire but they lack the urge and the motive. It comes to their mind like a notion that can be controlled if the circumstances are not permitting, or the guy is not interesting, not a physical urge that they have to do it no matter what, with anybody. That is why when they do it they do it after careful thinking and good evaluation of the circumstances. Probably that is why women are blamed for having sexual affairs more than men
6- The idea of men wants sex for sex not as a way to express a true love in a big bar in woman’s sexuality.
7- The situational requirments that add more burden on the woman. She has to look appealing and welcoming even if she is not, putting a nice make up, dresses in a provocative way, shave, put perfume, sometimes she is asked to wears small see through clothes in the middle on a cold winter while he is wearing his Kastoor pyjamas and just getting his thing out. etc.. It is really unfair
8- What the man does in a sexual encounter is exactly what the woman does NOT want. Short foreplay, no love words, painful harsh mechanical movement, The stimulatory movement is away from her target organ. The very quick time he reaches his climax and the most horrible and inhuman of all is his sudden immediate loss of interest after his orgasm. He immediately sleeps, turns his back, leaves the room to smoke or watch TV as if nothing happened and she is left frustrated with her gradual, natural downhill of feelings.
I guess bilateral awareness of the natural physical differences of both sexes, better dealing with the cultural challenges might make the distance between men and women sexuality a lot narrower.
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